Domestic Violence / Spouse Abuse
A general statement about abuse: Those who hold the least power and resources in
society are most often those who are abused (women, children, disabled, elderly). Bear in
mind that anyone can be abused, this includes men and women, rich or poor, educated or
illiterate, employed or unemployed - abuse is no respecter of persons or boundaries, and
can occur at any time during a person’s life.

Instructions for clearing your web surfing history and phone calls

Self help books for healing from abuse

A few facts about Domestic violence
Abuse or violence within a family or intimate relationship is an intentional act that is used to
gain power and control over another person.

Acts of domestic violence committed with a child present are considered child abuse in
many states.

Violence between intimate partners includes murders, rapes, robberies, or assaults
committed by spouses, ex-spouses, boy friends, or girlfriends. This does not include other
relatives (a parent, child, in-law, sibling, cousin, or grandparent), acquaintances (a friend, or
someone known), or strangers.

Violence between intimate partners often happens in private, and the victims tend to be
reluctant to report occurrences because of shame or fear of reprisal from the abuser, and
because they do not believe anyone can help them.

In any given year, women experience ten domestic violence incidents for every one
perpetrated against men.

Physical abuse is only one part of a whole system of abusive tactics.

Healthy skills vs Abusive tactics
The cycle of abuse
Wheel of power and Control
Myths about the battered woman
Early warning signs of abuse
Signs you show when being abused
When is it abuse?
Signs of manipulation
Reasons an abuser does not want to stop
How an abuser thinks
Types of spouse abusers
Myths about the men who batter
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
Stalking - a criminal act
Why Forgive
Wants and Needs in Abuse Survivors

Please note that there is help for batterers. Every state and county with a domestic violence
program has treatment for batterers. Simply call the Domestic Violence hotline for

Excellent book on understanding how a batterer thinks -
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy
Bancroft.   ISBN: 0-399-14844-2. Website:
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National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-2433

Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
TTY: 1-800-787-3224