Power and Control Wheel
Using Intimidation -
making her afraid by using
looks, actions, gestures,
smashing things,
destroying her property,
abusing pets, displaying
weapons.
Using Emotional Abuse -
Putting her down, making
her feel bad about herself,
calling her names, making
her think she's crazy, play
mind games, humiliating
her, making her feel guilty.
Using Isolation -
controlling what she does,
who she sees and talks to,
what she reads, where she
goes, limiting her outside
involvement, using jealousy
to justify actions.
Minimizing, Denying, and
Blaming - Making light of
the abuse and not taking
her concerns about it
seriously, saying the abuse
didn't happen, shifting
responsibility for abusive
behavior, saying she
caused it.
making her afraid by using
looks, actions, gestures,
smashing things,
destroying her property,
abusing pets, displaying
weapons.
Using Emotional Abuse -
Putting her down, making
her feel bad about herself,
calling her names, making
her think she's crazy, play
mind games, humiliating
her, making her feel guilty.
Using Isolation -
controlling what she does,
who she sees and talks to,
what she reads, where she
goes, limiting her outside
involvement, using jealousy
to justify actions.
Minimizing, Denying, and
Blaming - Making light of
the abuse and not taking
her concerns about it
seriously, saying the abuse
didn't happen, shifting
responsibility for abusive
behavior, saying she
caused it.
Using children - Making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages
Using Male Privilege - treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master of the castle",
being the one to define men's and women's roles
Using economy Abuse - preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an
allowance, taking her money, not letting her now about or have access to family income.
Using Coercion and Threats - making and/or threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to
commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.
Using Male Privilege - treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master of the castle",
being the one to define men's and women's roles
Using economy Abuse - preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an
allowance, taking her money, not letting her now about or have access to family income.
Using Coercion and Threats - making and/or threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to
commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.