Signs of Manipulation
The abuser will:
   - have abrupt mood changes

   - deny the obvious about his or her own actions and feelings

   - convince you that what he or she wants you to do is best for you

   - get you to feel sorry for him or her

   - get you to blame yourself or others for his or her actions

   - use confusion tactics in arguments

   - lie or mislead you about his or her actions, desires, or reasons for doing things

   - get you and your family or friends turned against each other


Source: Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do That?"