When is it Abuse?
Note: You do not have to experience all the things listed below to be abused, any of the
actions below are abusive.
It is abuse when:
- there is retaliation against you for complaining about his or her behaviors
- you are told that your objections to his or her mistreatments are your own problem
- you are given apologies that sound insincere or angry, and forced to accept them
- you are blamed for the impact of his or her behavior
- there is never a right time or way to bring things up
- your progress in life is continually being undermined
- the abuser denies what was said or done
- hurtful or frightening actions are justified with, "you made me do it."
- the abuser touches you in anger or makes you afraid in other ways
- you are coerced into having sex or are sexually assaulted by the abuser
- there is a pattern of controlling, disrespectful, or degrading behavior
- you show signs of being abused
actions below are abusive.
It is abuse when:
- there is retaliation against you for complaining about his or her behaviors
- you are told that your objections to his or her mistreatments are your own problem
- you are given apologies that sound insincere or angry, and forced to accept them
- you are blamed for the impact of his or her behavior
- there is never a right time or way to bring things up
- your progress in life is continually being undermined
- the abuser denies what was said or done
- hurtful or frightening actions are justified with, "you made me do it."
- the abuser touches you in anger or makes you afraid in other ways
- you are coerced into having sex or are sexually assaulted by the abuser
- there is a pattern of controlling, disrespectful, or degrading behavior
- you show signs of being abused