How an abusive man thinks
He is controlling - in arguments and decisions, personal freedom, parenting, and protection.
He feels entitled - believes that he has special status with exclusive rights and privileges that
his partner does not and will never have.
He twists things into their opposites - he has to look good, be right, and be justified.
He disrespects his partner and considers himself superior to her - she is an object.
He confuses love and abuse.
He is manipulative (see signs of manipulation).
He strives to have a good public image, hides the abuse at home so no one will believe any
reports of abuse.
He feels justified.
He denies and minimizes the abuse.
He is possessive, shown by ownership and isolation of the partner
Source: Lundy Bancroft's book "Why does he do that?"
He feels entitled - believes that he has special status with exclusive rights and privileges that
his partner does not and will never have.
He twists things into their opposites - he has to look good, be right, and be justified.
He disrespects his partner and considers himself superior to her - she is an object.
He confuses love and abuse.
He is manipulative (see signs of manipulation).
He strives to have a good public image, hides the abuse at home so no one will believe any
reports of abuse.
He feels justified.
He denies and minimizes the abuse.
He is possessive, shown by ownership and isolation of the partner
Source: Lundy Bancroft's book "Why does he do that?"